If it weren’t for Jesus…

If it weren’t for Jesus, there would be no hospitality in Christianity. There are churches that claim to be Christian all over the place with signs out front proclaiming their hospitality: “WELCOME!” they proclaim.

But what is welcoming? Jesus said, “Whenever you do it to the least of these, you do it unto me.” Right? Jesus was talking about the isolated, the left out, the rejects, the losers–those with no power and no resources.

Last night at the little Presbyterian church to which I belong, we had a Maundy Thursday service. Some of the elements of this service are footwashing–unique to this service, remembering Jesus’ servanthood of course, but also his hospitality–and communion. And the gospel message, ending with “I give you a new commandment: Love one another. And you’re to love one another the way I have loved you. This is how all will know that you’re my disciples: that you truly love one another.”

In the sermon, the pastor talked about attending a banquet where everyone was dysfunctional. Two of the guests were quibbling about having special seats; another was going to tell everyone that he never even met Jesus; and yet another was about to leave the party to go tell the authorities where they could find Jesus to capture, torture, illegally try, and finally execute him.

But what did Jesus do? First of all, he washed their feet! Then he fed them, ending the meal by giving them a final course far beyond any deserving: he gave them himself to be with them for all time through the bread and the wine, the body and the blood. Servanthood, humility, forgiveness, hospitality. All things that Jesus was trying all along to teach the disciples–things that they never seemed to “get” during their time with him.

And how is it that we “get it” ourselves two thousand years later? Pictures of the pope and the cardinals going out and finding homeless folks to wash their feet pop up in the newspapers. That’s a good thing.

But then… a story about a loving, married lesbian couple in Wyoming who have been denied communion. In the Roman Catholic church, this is a way of denying a person their full personhood. Making people into second-class citizens. Not good enough to go all the way.

Where did Jesus do this? At the feeding of the five thousand or the four thousand? No. There, he told the disciples to come up with food to feed all of the folks who had come out to listen to him. No litmus test. No secret handshakes or showing of membership cards. Just servanthood, hospitality, love. And even at this final meal that he shared with his intimate followers, where Jesus knew that he was going to be betrayed by Judas–and by Peter, the “rock” of the church–he still invited them all to the table, washed their feet, fed them, and loved them.

We 21st century sophisticates think that those disciples who hung out with Jesus were so silly and naive, and that we “get it” so much more than they did; but we can be just as silly and naive–and hurtful and unloving.

Jesus included people. The church (in this case, the Catholic church, but it is ALL of the Church) finds ways to exclude.

“I give you a new commandment: Love one another. And you’re to love one another the way I have loved you. This is how all will know that you’re my disciples: that you truly love one another.”


Lesbian couple in Wyoming denied Communion
by Kathleen Miller
Associated Press
Friday Apr 6, 2007
Lynne Huskinson, left, and her spouse Leah Vader pose for a photo in June 2006.

Lynne Huskinson, left, and her spouse Leah Vader pose for a photo in June 2006. (Source:AP/Jennifer Ottinger)

Leah Vader and Lynne Huskinson, a lesbian couple who got married in Canada last August, sent a letter recently to their state legislator decrying a Wyoming bill that would deny recognition of same-sex marriages. The lawmaker read the letter on the floor of the Legislature.

Soon after, the local paper interviewed the couple on Ash Wednesday and ran a story and pictures of them with ash on their foreheads, a mark of their Roman Catholic faith.

It wasn’t long after that that the couple received a notice from their parish church telling them they have been barred from receiving Communion.

“If all this stuff hadn’t hit the newspaper, it wouldn’t have been any different than before – nobody would have known about it,” said the couple’s parish priest at St. Matthew’s, the Rev. Cliff Jacobson. “The sin is one thing. It’s a very different thing to go public with that sin.”

Catholics deemed sinners in the eyes of the church are sometimes taken aside and privately advised not to take Communion. But Cheyenne Bishop David Ricken, gay Catholic organizations and a national church spokeswoman said they could not recall any previous instance of a U.S. bishop denying the sacrament to a gay couple in writing.

Now Huskinson and Vader say they are struggling to reconcile their devotion to the church with their devotion to each other.

“You spend half your time defending your gayness to Catholics,” Vader said, “and the other half of your time defending your Catholicism to gays.”

The couple, who regularly attended Mass and took Communion, have not been back to St. Matthew’s since they received the letter a month and a half ago. Vader said they did not want to make a scene.

The 46-year-old newlyweds – Vader is a supervisor at a recycling center, Huskinson a coal miner – ran afoul of a sort of don’t-ask-don’t-tell policy on the church’s part.

“You spend half your time defending your gayness to Catholics,” Vader said, “and the other half of your time defending your Catholicism to gays.”

“I told my wife in good conscience that if I had known those ladies, and we’d have been having a beer, I’d have just told them to keep everything to themselves,” parish music director John Chick said. He added that once news like this hits the papers, “someone’s forced to deal with it now, aren’t they?”

The parish priest said that after the couple put their engagement and marriage announcements in the local paper, he ran reminders of the church’s teachings in the parish bulletin as a warning.

After the Ash Wednesday story, the priest sent this letter: “It is with a heavy heart, in obedience to the instruction of Bishop David Ricken, that I must inform you that, because of your union and your public advocacy of same-sex unions, that you are unable to receive Communion.”

The bishop said the couple’s sex life constitutes a grave sin, “and the fact that it became so public, that was their choice.”

Last fall, the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops overwhelmingly approved new guidelines that say parishes should welcome gays while telling them to be celibate because the church considers their sexuality “disordered.” The bishops said that anyone who knowingly persists in sinful behavior, such as gay sex or using artificial contraception, should refrain from taking Communion.

Professor Carl Raschke, chairman of religious studies at the University of Denver, said of the Cheyenne bishop’s decision: “It’s no more surprising that the Catholic Church would deny Communion to an openly gay couple than a Muslim mosque would deny access to somebody who ate pork.”

Sister Mary Ann Walsh, spokeswoman for the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, said the church allows local bishops to handle decisions on who may take Communion, so there is no record of how many have been barred from receiving the sacrament.

Walsh said most cases she has heard of involved public figures. During the 2004 presidential campaign, the St. Louis archbishop Raymond Burke said he would deny Communion to John Kerry, a Catholic who supports abortion rights.

Vader said the couple never made any secret of their relationship. She pointed to statuettes of two kissing Dutch girls in front of their single-wide trailer home. She also said that the couple posed for a church directory family photo with Vader’s children from a previous marriage, and that the church has sent mail to both of them at the same address for years.

Huskinson questioned why Catholics having premarital sex and using birth control are not barred from receiving Communion, too. But the parish priest said the difference is this: The other Catholics are “not going around broadcasting, `Hey I’m having sex outside of marriage’ or `I’m using birth control.’”

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